Is Your Book Boyfriend Too Young For You?

March 13, 2014 Jennifer's Thoughts, Marianne's Thoughts 24

You might be wondering why we would even ask ourselves this, heck we’re even wondering ourselves! But, the truth of the matter is that we read YA and most YA characters are usually 15-17 years old. Marianne is 18, Jennifer is 17, so it’s safe to say that we’re both a little bit older than most Book Boyfriends… Here at Boricuan Bookworms we have this feature that we used to do a while ago, called My Perfect Boyfriend. That’s where we basically swooned over our favorite book boyfriends and such. Thing is, we’ve never stopped to actually think about their ages…

Marianne

Whenever you read a YA book, whether if it’s a sci-fi, or a dystopian, or a mystery, you’ll always find some sort of romance.

Sometimes, (most of the time), they turn out to be these mushy, romantic, swoony romance books! And then, it gets worse because you start falling in love with the characters in the book! Does this make you a bad person?

Well, I’m 18 years old. And YA is my favorite genre. This means that all of my book boyfriends are around 16-17 years old. This doesn’t sound too bad …right? That is… if we just try not to think about the fact that one of my youngest book boyfriends is 14 (Sage from The False Prince)

Before you run away screaming or try calling the authorities or something, hear me out!

First of all, there are a series of factors I take into consideration when falling (or not) for a book boy:

  • Looks (because, duh)
  • Personality
  • Does he make me laugh?
  • Is he witty?
  • Is he smart?
  • Is he charming?
  • How does he treat others?
  • Is he respectful?
  • Would I let him break my heart?
  • Would I ever let him kiss me?

And notice that none of those factors ever mentioned age. That’s because I don’t really pay attention to age when I’m reading a book. If I did that, then I’d probably never fall for a book guy!

I think this is the reason why I’ve been reading New Adult romances lately… I mean the main characters are usually around my age (or older) therefore I don’t feel as that acting pedophilic in any way!

I think I also blame the media. They make us believe that 16 & 17 year olds look like:

When they don’t! They look nothing like that (well, there are exceptions, but…). We are being fed the completely wrong idea that 16 year olds look like men, that we sadly can’t help but fall for!

In a way, I also blame authors, because they describe these male interests as these drop-dead gorgeous people.. Why can’t I have this normal, maybe gawky, lanky (not muscular in any way), brown hair, brown eyes, guy? This guy who is in every way average looking, yet steals our hearts regardless?

Now, back to the original question: Is Your Book Boyrfriend Too Young for You? Probably. But you shouldn’t feel bad about it! I hardly doubt that this means you’re going to start looking at actual 14 & 15 year olds and say, “Hey, you’re really cute. I don’t care if I’m 10 years older than you“. No! I think you’re going to find this guy who is a just the right age for you, and you’ll think “Hey, this guy has some characteristics that X character had… I think I may like him“.

So, who cares if your book boyfriend is younger than you? When reading a book, you become someone else, you live a different life, so live the life you want to live inside of your books. #LoveTheBookBoyfriends!!

Jacob approves!

(Jennifer: That Jacob Gif…)

Jennifer

Romance is the most selling genre books in the market, followed by Mystery/Thrillers, according to a book I read a few years ago (I don’t have the source). I once went to Borders and from approximately 10 books I took out of a shelve in the young adult section, at least 8 were of romance in any of the areas, specially the paranormal ones. If you search the best-selling lists, one book or the other has romance in either big or small quantities. We can’t help it, we love romance and the characters with which we can’t help but fall hopelessly in love for. 

When I read I wouldn’t really give much notice to the age, because when I was reading I was the main character and it was useless to think of the age. It wasn’t until recently that Marianne brought the point that we were falling in love for guys who were either younger or older than us. And not only in books but series and movies too! Do you know David Tennant, from Doctor Who? Well, he could be my father with his age. Now I don’t even dare to think I love him other than the character because, for some reason, a 900-or-so Timelord is more bearable than a forty one.

And Sage from The False Prince! He’s 14! And Harry Potter, who’s 11! Although, at least with Harry, I knew him when I was way younger than that so that’s okay. And the same with Percy. But now I’m 17, and I read all kinds of books from Children’s to Young Adult and even Adult ones where I keep falling for the main guy.

But like I read in a Tumblr post, when we fall in love with a character, it’s like we fall in love with their souls because we don’t actually see them in a physical dimension or even know them personally. Through the magic of the book we know them, through the pages we kiss them (and do other stuff…) and love them as if they were people we knew in real life.

My Perfect Book Boyfriends usually have these things in common:

  • Looks = And I don’t mean hunky and full of muscles all the time. They can also be skinny, tall, blonde, brunette, blue eyes, brown eyes, it doesn’t matter that much but I like how they are nonetheless.
  • Brains = I love brains. A guy who knows his stuff and can argue about them, who thinks for himself and likes to investigate, gosh that’s so sexy.
  • Humor = Because I’m too lame and I like to laugh.
  • Respectful with others
  • Thoughtful
  • Ambitious
  • And a good personality

No age there right? When we read of them we aren’t even paying attention to it. If he makes us feel a certain way then he’s the one. He can be a ten-year-old or a forty-year-old, or even a hundred-something-year old, and still fall for him. Maybe you won’t marry him, but you have a deep affection towards them because of the common things. And the authors are also to blame, but we still love them for creating swoon worthy material to escape from reality. Also, how maybe you can fall for a woman too, it all depends of your sexual orientation because it’s not really limited to men.

So, like my friend Marianne, who cares about age?! Read the book and dream of that hunky piece of meat or tall bone or chubby bear or.. or… what if he’s an alien? Give some lovin’ to that alien creature too. If one thing I’ve learned from the Bookworm community, is that we don’t discriminate in these things, and when we like ’em, we like ’em and a number won’t change it.

What do you think? Do you feel weird liking young guys in books? Leave your thoughts below! 

Marianne and Jennifer

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  • Well, this is awkward. I’m in my mid 20’s and still crush on YA book boyfriends lol! I’m sure a lot of older YA readers do too, sometimes we can’t help ourselves! They are so incredibly swoony! Anyway, that aside, I think this is a great post 🙂

  • You ladies bring up a great point. It does feel kind of awkward liking young guys in books (I don’t really think of boys in YA as my book boyfriends, I’m wayyy too old for that) but if I like them it’s because they have traits that I like in real life (personality,etc.).

    If the author does their job right, they are supposed to make you fall in love with these characters. You are supposed to be crushing on them right along with the main character or be on the team of the under dog.

    David Tennant may be 41, but I’m 26 so loving him is exactly what I want (giggles at your gif) whether or not he is the Doctor. He is just so charming *swoons*.

    • Yesss. Their personalities are what make them so lovable! Besides we read YA books most of the time from the perspective of the main girl character, so it’s reasonable to fall for the guy, since we’re living the book through HER eyes.

      I told my mom that David Tennant was 41, and she said “well he’s too old for you, too young for me, but he’s just so damn attractive. Man, we should’ve been born in a different time.” Hahaha.

      • I am so unashamed of my David Tennant love haha. Granted, he is only 15 years older than I am, so I guess it’s not as weird.

        • Besides, his wife is 29 years old, so… You are definitely not weird. Haha.

  • All of my book bfs are probably too young for me. But I don’t care! (Also, I totally sang that line in my head as I typed it…) I don’t really pay attention to age when I read either. It’s just not important. I focus on how the characters make me feel.

    • I agree! I just age them in my head xD Thanks for commenting!
      -Marianne

  • Oh please don’t judge yourself for having crush on these boys in YA. I’m 10 years older than you and I’m still falling in love with these YA boys too. And I don’t feel guilty at all. LOL.

    Whenever I read YA books, I feel young too. I guess that’s one reason why I can’t let go of YA genre.

    • Yes, I agree that the YA genre is just too good to pass up. Besides I hear “Adult books” and think Erotica, and I’m not ready for that, lol.

      • I have read Erotica books and some “for adults” genre but it’s still not the same with YA. With YA, you will definitely swoon over the guys. In adults, it’s plain lust.

  • Hi girls!
    I had to stop by ’cause I saw this post in my email and it was simply hilarious. I completely agree with both of you. I’m… (have to think about it for a while. I stopped counting when I reached the 18 [you’ll know what I’m talking about in a couple of years]) 21 almost 22 (this june YAY… ¬¬) and YA book boyfriends are sweet and amazing. And sometimes, if you think about it, it’s weird ’cause you are crushing on a 16/17 boy and it’s all the author’s fault for create characters so dreamy! hahaha
    Thanks for this amazing post 😉

    • Hahaha you’re still so young! I mean it’s weird if you think about it, but, it’s just a book, so… lol. Thanks for stopping by!

  • I’m 20, and I’ve swooned and fallen in love with a fictional 15 year old (Day from Legend). I wrote a post a while back about why book boyfriends are so amazing, and I said that one of the reasons is that it doesn’t matter about the age difference. I mean they’re fictional, for one thing. Just because Day is my #1 love at the moment doesn’t mean I’m going to fall in love with a 15 year old BOY.
    I think the main reason why younger book boyfriends are so easy to fall in love with is because they are unrealistic. If you really think about their descriptions and their dialogue – no one their age REALLY talks like that. Descriptions are always painting teenage books to look like 20 year olds, and the conversations they have are so emotionally deep and ridiculously poignant you kind of know n the back of your mind that no one their age talks like that in real life.
    But it’s okay – they’re fictional. That’s their major downfall but also makes it okay to love someone years younger than you.
    On a side note, I always imagine characters as my age, even when they say they’re 16 or whatever. I mean, I’m in my frame of mind, and I just cannot really rewind and imagine myself as a younger teenager again, haha.

    • You are so right!. Maybe the authors forgot what being a teen was like? lol. I agree with you. I imagine them my age, which I guess is why I fall so easily for.

  • Cait

    Oh phew, I needed a post like this to help me realise that no I’m not a creepy book lover. 😉 Hehe. I’m 20 now, and when I realise that my fictional crushes are 16-18 (I mean, August Waters? Tobias Eaton? Gansey/Ronan?!!) I feel kind of like an evil creeper. BUT. It balances out because of the non-ageing dudes (like Morpheus) and also all my TV addictions were the dudes are like…in their late 30s. -_- Supernatural. Aaaaaall the Avengers. Yeah? I’m totally justified. XD This was an awesomely epic post, by the way.

    • MORPHEUS *happy dance* Yes, I think Morpheus just justifies everything else. Haha.
      Dude, Hawkeye (Jeremy Renner) is gorgeous! All of the Avengers! xD

  • Joy

    Ha! Well, of course they are. Lol. Though I have adult “lovers” (instead of boyfriend. Boyfriend sounds so immature. *winks*). Jerricho Barrons from Karen Marie Moning’s Fever series and Zhadist from JR Ward’s BDB series. 🙂

    • I’ve heard so maany things about the Fever series. I think I should meet this Jerricho Barrons xD

  • Faye M.

    Hah, I’ve had crushes on older fictional personalities and younger ones, so yeah, I’m totally not judging you guys, don’t worry 😛 As for me, I go more for personality than anything else. I don’t really “picture” a love interest/book boyfriend in my head, so I always go by how much they make me smile with just their persona alone, and if it’s the kind of personality I’d like to see in a real life boyfriend!

    Faye @ The Social Potato

    • That’s what I usually do, too! Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  • Well, well, well. Look at me, and I’m waaaaaaaaay older than my book boyfriends. But that’s the beauty of books. It’s all in the imagination. I would usually pick up a book and settle into my teen self when it’s YA, my younger self if it’s MG, early adult life with NA, and well, Adult as an adult. No judgment here. Bookish people are on board on this train. Choo choo!

    • Ha. Almost all of us are! Hahaha. But it’s just like you say, it’s all in the imagination. 🙂

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